Discovering Your Edge: Growth and Healing

“We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.” – Brene Brown

The concept of finding your edge initially resonated with me during my yoga practice. The edge represents that sweet spot where you push your body just enough to experience an optimal stretch, while avoiding potential harm or strain. It’s meant to be challenging yet safe, avoiding any pain. Interestingly, this notion seamlessly translates to therapy and the journey of mental healing—finding your mental edge.

As a trauma therapist, I encourage my clients to work diligently, even when it becomes uncomfortable. It is within this discomfort that true growth occurs. Finding your mental edge involves delving into the exploration of trauma, cognitive patterns, and behavioral tendencies in our lives. It requires pushing ourselves mentally and emotionally, stepping out of our comfort zones, but always being mindful not to hurt or retraumatize ourselves. In the initial stages, it’s not about immediate change; it’s about comprehending these patterns and recognizing how they no longer serve us.

Finding your mental edge means embracing the present moment and fearlessly exploring the raw emotions that society often encourages us to hide from. Many individuals express hesitation when it comes to trauma work, fearing that bringing up the past will exacerbate their pain. While discomfort is an inevitable aspect of the process, it is within this discomfort that transformative changes take root. By leaning into this discomfort, we open ourselves up to profound shifts and growth.

Discovering your edge entails pushing through the discomfort, embracing new experiences, and exploring innovative techniques. It is a journey of self-exploration and self-empowerment. As we gradually expand our capacity to confront the challenges that lie before us, we find the strength to rewrite our narratives and shape a brighter future.

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